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Win At The Pickup And Dating Game Instead Of Just Getting By

This article is for guys of any age. It will guide you to feeling much more confident about talking with the opposite sex and making yourself more attractive to them. By the time you reach the end of this article you will be well on your way to winning at the Pickup and Dating game instead of just getting by.

How can we make something that sounds so simple, so difficult and frustrating. First, guys are great talking to each other about guy things, sports, computers, cars, home repair, and so forth. We continue right along talking about the ups and downs of our dating relationships. But, we do not know what we are talking about for the simple reason that we do not know how women think. Women do not think like guys! We must take time out to learn how they think.

Many men think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that is simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something. It is important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you have already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction. Try to use a contact close when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss.

When you find yourself talking to a group of girls, use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you are talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This gives a sense of competition to the girl you are really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

Getting girls to feel an attraction for you - that is not simply based on your looks, the contents of your wallet or the car you have got parked outside - can be really tricky. For example, most men think saying: Can I have your number? is an okay way to finish a conversation that has gone well with a girl. But there is a much more powerful and effective way of saying the same thing. Something like: It has been nice to meet you. Shall we swap numbers or maybe grab a bite to eat and a drink tomorrow? What you are doing is presenting the girl with a choice between good and better - whichever she says yes to, you win. If you only give her one option, as in the first example, she is likely to create her own alternative, which means there is a chance she will not say yes to the option you gave her.

Men who are successful with women create that success for themselves - not through luck or good fortune. Always look your best. This sounds really obvious but you would be surprised by how many men do not understand the importance of this simple tip. You never know when the girl of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it is become a bit of a cliche because it is true - first impressions really do count. Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good - you feel an instant attraction even though you do not know her - well, that is how women feel too.

Body language is very important. It is more important to pay careful attention to how you say things, and how you stand and how you act than it is to what you say (at least initially).

Do not limit yourself to singles bars for meeting women. There are other better places, shopping malls for one. Walk around the shopping mall and when you catch a womans eye, smile at her ? more often than not, she will smile back. To start with you can do this just with shop employees. Even if they do not want to smile, they probably will. Good practice, and you might even brighten a few womens lives a little. Not big weird freak smiles, just nice, natural friendly ones. A lot of women will smile back at you. After you have smiled and said hi to 20 or 30 women, you should start to feel good about yourself.

I wish women had shared these kinds of tips when I was growing up. I could have saved myself from a lot of relationships that went nowhere, and the heart break that went with it.

Tips For Ending A Bad Online Date

You may be eagerly waiting for your hot date. You may spend all day getting ready. You may be enjoying your online date. However, things are not always rosy. There are times when things go awfully wrong. You may want to avoid the bad online date. It is common that you want to escape through the bathroom window. It is wise to end the date in such situations to avoid any future problems. You need to refuse him gently. However, being too gentle with a person in whom you have no interest at all can make him think you continue having an interest in him.

If your dating partner has an issue with hygiene like body odor or bad breath, then you may wish to turn off the date. The problem becomes worse if you have little or no tolerance to unhygienic conditions. You can follow a direct approach in such cases. You can offer him a chewing gum or breath mints.

If your date embarrasses you in public by making extremely noisy conversations and laughs loud, then you may find it difficult to continue your relationship. People around you may stare at you and the situation may really frustrate you. You can then end such bad online dates by complaining about some severe stomach pain or head ache. Then you can avoid attending his phone calls. Your date would gradually realize that you do not want to continue the relationship.

If you come across a horrible dating experience, then you can tell your partner directly that you do not like him. You can end the date faster this way. However, this method is not suitable if you do not feel comfortable making a direct communication.

It is better to ask for an excuse to go home. You can explain to him why you need to go immediately. If you feel that your date is a jerk, then do not waste time in trying to convince him. Just get out early as possible. You can tell him tenderly that you do not have any passion for him. Be courteous in ending up the relationship. However, do not give him a kiss, as this would send a wrong signal.

In many cases, honesty is the best policy. If the person lied about his age or appearance, then it is quite natural that you want to end that date when you meet him directly. Since he is not truthful to you, you need not worry about his feelings. If he asks you as to why you want to end the date, then tell him the truth that you want to date an honest person.

You can ask your friend to call you while you are out with your date for the first time. If you do not like the person, you can use the phone call to escape the bad online date. You can get away from uncomfortable questions by saying that there is some urgent work to attend to.

Once you end a bad online date, you need to screen your phone calls for a few weeks until the person understands that you do not like him and stops annoying you.

Selecting An Online Dating Service

Whether you are looking for a simple date or your future spouse, knowing where to look can make a big difference in the types of people that you meet. With that being said, the same is true of an online dating service and knowing which one will work best for you.

If you are looking to meet someone in your area, start by logging on to an online dating service website and searching for local profiles. If your area is popular on a particular online dating website, then you may receive a lot of interest if you plan to post a profile. If you are looking to respond to an ad, then you will have a better selection if you choose an online dating service that features a number of profiles for singles in your area.

In many cases, it?s free to post a profile. The fees are commonly charged to those who wish to access and respond the personal ads, so consider your budget when choosing whether to post or respond to an ad. If you have the funds, it may be a good idea to try both. Before signing up, take the time to check out the online dating service?s privacy terms, their number of years in business and their record with the local Better Business Bureau.

Many singles opt for using more than one online dating service, which can maximize their chances of finding a date. When selecting an online dating service, it?s important to make sure that the information you provide is confidential. This is especially true if you are entering your credit card or banking information as a form of payment, which is why you will want to make sure the online dating service is reputable before handing over your private financial information. Avoid using an online dating service just because it looks professional or offers the better deal. Even though cost is an important consideration, the larger concern is making sure the company is legitimate. This is where the Better Business Bureau report will come into play, which details how long the company has been in business, whether their record is satisfactory or not and how many, if any, complaints have been lodged against the company within the last 24-36 months.

When it comes to dating and meeting new people, make sure that your online mingling spot is just as reputable as your favorite local hotspot.

In Search Friendships And Effective Dating

Each mature person in our lives is after a relationship that might turn out to be something that is very effective, even if it is forever. People have come to realize that before you even think of dating and meeting anybody out there in a fun-filled evening, there is the question of whether the person will be able to handle the kind of pressure that comes with any relationships. People have to realize that there is a power which exists past the single world and singles perception of life, to a point of taking it slow and with a careful nature and cool behavior so that they can minimize risks.

The way the people take dating in modern sense is affected mostly by the thoughts that they have regarding the outcome and final effect that they expect the dating relationship to have brought in their lives. People are in search of a system that will automatically allow them to have a say on how they want to have their relationships taking shape, such that they are not ready to just risk and come out fuming after a systems failure. The first thing that they come to be sure about is that dating is a process of reawakening which puts a person at a better chance in terms of friendship and love issues.

You can imagine a process of knowledge without dating; the things that we take for granted would really hard to come by. This includes such things as having in our lives the inherent joy of knowing the essence of our character and what really makes us feel good. You want to know how to handle the person you are in love with as well as how he or she does their own things. This is all in trying to come across all that you can find for you to be certain that the person you are dating is the kind of person you have been searching for.

You must be aiming at scoring big in a relationship score card, and it is the reason as to why you want to make sure you have began the relationship from a point of strength as you perfect it in dating instances. You must begin dating for friendship purposes, where you are going out to meet suitable men or women who might make something huge in future. Dating has come of as one of those things that you want to do for the rest of your life if it?s possible, because it so cool and splendid.

You are held up between marriage perfection and attainment of a great friendship. It is the reason as to why dating has always been blissful and the love of many. You are in one long or short journey of absolute discovery. You cannot avoid dating if you are after attaining the best from your relationship and you must engage in it if you have to be at par with your feelings. You leave them to speak their inherent wisdom to you.

Relational Mastery: The Key To Success

Men can continue and continue to work on mastering themselves but if they don't master their relationships with everything and everyone outside of them, they're still going to be thrown into relationships of manipulation, coercion, disrespect and oppression often without
their own cognizance.

The reality is, if you don't keep your power for yourself, you're already in relationships with other people and sources that have the true relational power over you in that relationship.

Entire systems of programming are designed so that people are unaware of the actual amount of influence they are under.

Radio, t.v. and magazines are the perfect examples and I'll just try and touch on some of them here as I cover them in other areas.

When looking at the world through the meta eyes of 'relational dynamics' we can see what's ACTUALLY going on in reality.

We can look at the different types of relationships that people are in (including yours) and we can re-frame relationships around for power instead of oppression.

So for example, if you're reading an FHM magazine with 100 pick-up lines (that don't work) and every single one of them is grounded in the relationship they're promoting for their own power (stimulus - response relationship of man being the response to the sexploited women), and then you're seeing all of these gorgeous, flaunting 'out of reach' women in the magazine.

Then, you're going to start thinking that women really DO have power, they're the prize and that you don't realistically have a chance.

So what do you do? Build up the fantasy even more, buy more magazines while actually 'connecting' with women in reality becomes even further away. All you see and judge them on becomes what you have conditioned to in the first place. You have no other basis or grounding.

All of this is rooted in the type of relationship you had with that source and the relationship with women you had through it.

The worst kind of relationship you can be in is where you are the conditioned response (powerless) to a given stimuli (power).

So many men are trying to master themselves and figure out how to 'get' the out of reach women they see that are similar to the mag models and it doesn't work. Why?

Because the logic + emotion of all of that conditioning (stimulus-response) moved over to their subconscious mind. It affected their nonverbal behavior. They now operate out of a reality where these women are ALL out of their league.

Not only are they in the wrong relationship to women right then and now when they want to approach, they've been habitually conditioned to be the 'response' to the unnatural stimuli of
sexploitation.

So now it doesn't matter what pick-up lines they say, they're just in the wrong relationship to women in the first place and their body language represents that.

And guess who is profiting here? It's not you, you're spending.

People only see what's in front of them without being aware of the type of true relationship that exists. When you turn the radio on you will instantly 'slip' into a conditioned 'response' mode, just soaking up whatever 'programming' is coming through from the stimulus.

You have to be very careful. The Social Matrix is based on power and influence. It sends out programming signals to condition and influence people to 'buy' and take an action often without their own consciousness.

By DEFAULT, television is massively influential because of it's inherent stimulus-response relationship it puts people into. People are being programmed and influenced all of the time.

The people think they are the ones with the true relational authority and power because of their 'choice' of programming but that's only when they have the remote in their hand before they turn the t.v. on.

It's still 'programming' that isn't really adding ANY type of value to their lives, instead it's taking value away and giving more power to the creators.

The type of relationship transforms immediately when you turn your brain off and soak up as a response the 'message' you are receiving.

Your brain focuses on taking in what is clearly in front of you so that you can't even think about anything else.

The radio dj starts talking about his day and BAM, you're INSTANTLY put into a response mode to their programming.

They now have 'the power' over you in that relationship. There's no real equality or mutual respect.

Master your relationships and commit to interdependence only and you will be powerful and successful around other power and success.

Pickup Girls – The Seven Best Places

When I was in high school, I was the guy who was glued to the wall at the school dances, wishing he could ask just ONE girl to dance. But every evening after the dance had ended, I was sure to go home alone.

Not Any More! I?ve come a long way since then, have an incredible college social life - and more girls than I know what to do with! (You can read more about my long, successful, incredible transformation, on my blog - see Resource Box below this article.)

One of the ?essentials? I had to learn, on my road from dating-dork to dating-Master, was WHERE to pickup girls. Not just places with women, but places PACKED with women, places that made it EASY to pickup women - and places with HOT women!

So let?s get to it. Here are 7 of the best places to pickup girls. I?ve listed them starting with common places (lots of women), to uncommon (a bit harder to do the pickup, but higher quality women).

#7: Bars & Nightclubs

Ok, I had to start with the place every guy thinks of first. But bars are not the best places to pickup women. Not the best setup. Not the best women. And one of the toughest pickup ?environments? around.

However, bars are everywhere, nightclubs are fun, and they?re packed with girls on particular nights and during the ?rush hours?. Plus, you can pickup more than one girl per evening out, IF you do it right. So how about a setup where the girl picks YOU up? How?d ya like that??

The Key: Choose your spot.

Checkout your intended target beforehand. Then go early the night you?re ?operating?, and reserve yourself the busiest spot at the bar (that you?ve already picked out).

All night, people will be cramming to get past you as they try to order their drinks in the chaos. And half of those people will be WOMEN!

Women will be knocking into you, touching you, crushing you - all night. You?ll get a constant series of perfect moments, for opening conversations with the girls of your choice!

#6: The Mega-Mall

Every large city has a mega-mall (or several). But even if you live in a small town, that one place in town everyone goes to shop, will do just fine.

Women love to shop. That?s a fact. So it just follows that anytime you go to the mall, there?s bound to be lots of women there.

The Key: Choose your time.

Do your research beforehand. Go to the Mall at different times of day, and different days. Walk around and see what kind of ?pickings? are available. (Also, you?ll find the best spots where women tend to congregate.)

One thing that amazed me was that the times with the MOST women, were not necessarily the times with the BEST looking women. So be sure to try the lunch-break, after work, and later in the evening. Then pick the time, frequented by the kind of women you would like to meet!

And speaking of Malls...

#5: Fragrance Stores

If you don?t know what these are, take a sniff of the air - you?ll find them! These are the places that sell bath oils, shower gels, body lotions - all in cute little pre-packaged assortments, with a ton of different fragrances all with cute sounding names. Women can?t get enough of this stuff.

#4: Franchise Coffee Shops

Personally, I think it?s kinda dumb to frequent a shop that just sells coffee. Isn?t that what donut shops are for? But after a long, ?tough? day of shopping, women love to drop all their bags and relax with a coffee/tea. They?re bored, they?re tired, and they?d just love some company. Try asking her if her shopping ?war? was successful - then be prepared to spend the next hour reviewing her ?captives?.

#3: Franchise Bookstores

Franchise Bookstores: Any bookstore works, but the big franchises attract women like a magnet (think Barnes & Noble). Especially on ?dating nights? and weekends, when a women who doesn?t have a date that week, can easily occupy herself for an entire evening, book-browsing.

The Key: Choose your books.

Once again, do your research beforehand. In every section that women frequent, pick one book (preferably a new best-seller), and get familiar with it.

Then, when you?re ready to cruise the bookstore aisles and you see a girl you?d like to know better - you?ve got something to talk about, that you know she?ll be interested in. In most cases, all you have to do is ask her if she?s read that particular book, and she?ll do all the talking! If she has, you just listen as she gives her opinion (women love doing that!); if she hasn?t, you can do your gentlemanly ?duty? and fill her in about it.

There are 5 great locations for you, for picking up women. But there are even better places for pickups - where the Hottest girls go!

For the #2 and #1 pickup locations, continuing reading Part 2 on my blog (see Resource Box below).

How To Start Your Own Online Dating Business

It?s not easy to make new friends and find a suitable partner for dating relationships. People today are very busy and don?t generally have time to meet people in the traditional way. That is why online dating services have become so popular. It is also a great business to get into for profit.

There are a lot of single people out there. Some of the larger online dating websites can claim 700,000 profiles and personal ads running on their sites. This shows that there are a great many people who are searching for their ideal mate. Marriages have been found through online dating and the possibilities are limitless.

There are millions of dollars being made with online dating services. This is a huge potential for a new business venture.

It is relatively easy to sell the basic needs that everyone has. It is particularly true of emotional needs. Dating, love and romance are some of those emotional needs. You will turn a profit by selling the romance to these people that are looking for the right person to share their life with.

There are some things that you should take into consideration before you start an online dating service.

Develop a good solid business plan. Many businesses fail because of a lack of planning. A business plan allows you to grow your business and operate with your plan in operation. Investors will want to view your business plan before they make a decision to invest in your business.

A method of managing the website is crucial. You should allow for web site design and get yourself a great web designer. Your website must be able to attract visitors to be successful, make sure your web host can handle the amount of visitors you expect. It might be in your best interest to host your own website.

You must plan your marketing and advertising strategy. You will require a great deal of money to get started on your advertising. You will be competing with the big boys so you will need to have your site stand out from the pack.

A good solid financial plan is necessary when you are starting any kind of business. This will help you determine how your money is allocated and the costs of operating your business are covered. You should also include your long-term financial goals.

Once you have all of those things in place you will be ready to launch your online dating service. You will be providing a great service to people who are looking to meet the person of their dreams. And you will be making a huge profit for your efforts.

Get A Girl Attracted To You

Here's a few of ways to get a girl attracted to you. These are some that I use and continue to get results from...

1. She is the guest in your reality. Understand that she is not the center of your world. This is probably the biggest factor that will determine your success with women. A lot of men have this misconception that women are the 'prize' and therefore they try to please women whenever they can. Big mistake. A girl will only feel attracted to something that she has got to work for. Women take nice guys for granted - always.

2. Make her feel insecure. Some people tell you that making women feel secure is the best way to win them over. Absolute nonsense. You have to keep making her insecure - so that she worries whether you will stick her her or not. The more you do this - the more she will feel that she needs you.

3. Hide your attraction to her. Look, when she knows that you are crazy over her - it's game over, buddy. Keeping her guessing your intentions is the name of the game. Make her confused, and you will win half the war.

Discovering Homemade Sex Toys Can Expand Your Intimacy With Your Partner

If you're looking for new ways to build intimacy, passion and trust in your relationship, homemade sex toys can be a great way to go.

Using homemade sex toys is one way to spice up the physical side of your sex life. But beyond the aspects of pleasure, it's also a wonderful bridge to enhance communication between you and your lover. That's because unearthing homemade sex toys in your environment-and how you want to use them-lets you share some of your deeper fantasies, work together and even surprise each other with innovative ideas that you haven't tried before.

Here are a few key ways to ensure that playing with homemade sex toys brings you everything you want to experience.

Play in Harmony

You won't build much trust, passion and intimacy if only one of you is on board with the concept of utilizing homemade sex toys. Like most matters sexual, this is an area where both partners need to share the spirit of the adventure. If one partner is keen, but the other is getting dragged along for the ride, your sexual balance will be out of whack. If one of you is unhappy and negative about the experience, you're going to sow the seeds of discontent and possibly end up with less trust than you started with.

So before you push your partner to find out how that cucumber might feel "in there," or use silk ties for more than just office attire, talk first about your mutual desires, goals and interests in terms of what is in bounds and out of bounds for homemade sex toy play.

Play Safe

Imagine the scene . . . you very carefully walk into the emergency room, unable to sit down, furiously blushing while trying to explain (in a hushed voice that you hope no one but the nurse will hear) how you ended up with a (insert object name here) stuck up your butt. That's the thing about homemade sex toys. They can be a lot of fun, and bring some real uniqueness to your sexual play, but you need to play safe.

Safe means . . . your toy of choice is clean. It means that whatever you "put in" you must be able to get out. It means not playing with something sharp or spiked that can cut or scrape you or your partner. It means stopping if something feels uncomfortable or is causing too much pain. And of course, playing with fire or electricity may give you more sparks than you intend, so proceed with caution there. The bottom line is . . . homemade sex toy play can be lots of fun-just do it safely and sensibly.

Play Around

One of the best things about playing with homemade sex toys is that the tools for your games are all around you. From the kitchen to the bathroom to the bedroom-even to the workroom-set your imagination free to find the best ways to enhance the intimacy (and fun!) in your sexual play. Many food items are ubiquitous sex toys. Tools, toothbrushes, bottles, faucets . . . the list of potential playthings is virtually endless.

Working together to discover the sex toys in your environment can help you build intimacy. Baring some of your deepest desires will improve your communication and help accentuate the trust between you. All it takes is some open and honest expression of your wants, and the willingness to mutually go where your ideas lead you.

Should You Tell Your Girlfriend or Wife You Are Going to Enlarge Your Penis?

That's an interesting question that we stumble across from more men than we ever thought we would hear. Really, should you tell your wife or girlfriend that you are going to enlarge your penis?

It's a tricky question and, of course, it depends on the woman. Our experience has shown that when a woman tells a man she is going to get breast implants, the guys say, "Yeah, that's fine, honey, whatever" and are secretly jumping for joy inside. With women, this isn't always the case. From our experience, women tend to wonder if you are trying to enlarge your tackle because you want to go fishing for different fish. However, some women are open to it, or at least say they are. Really, with women, it's hard to know what they really mean compared to what they really say. This is what makes them so fascinating.

We have had instances where men engaged in penis enlargement and shared it with their wives (no girlfriends here) and the response actually helped their love life and marriage. This was something we never expected. What seemed to be the case with these couples is that the woman would help the man with his penis enlargement exercises. In all the cases it was fun, enjoyable, and interesting for both of them and it also set the stage for a different form of foreplay. That is, massaging the penis this way and focusing both couples attention on it was a great way to turn them both on. Who would have thought? So, in these instances, sharing the enlargement process actually added to the closeness, happiness, and love in their relationships.

If you are living with your girlfriend or wife, it can be difficult to find the free time (alone) to enlarge yourself, especially if you are using weights, extenders, or exercises. So, one reason for letting your girl know, in these instances, is that it might be difficult to conceal what you are doing. Of course, this isn't always a problem, but consider if your wife/girlfriend would rather you tell her this before she found out, on her own, that you were trying to enlarge your penis. If you think it would be better to tell her upfront instead of her finding out on her own, then it would be best to use that approach.

Thanks to the Internet and the like, such subjects that were once taboo, such as penis enlargement, aren't so taboo any longer. Especially if your wife/girlfriend has an open mind, then revealing such information shouldn't be a problem. This is definitely a plus. However, your mileage may vary.

None of the men we discussed this with felt that their wives were "jumping for joy" because they told their better halves that they were going to enlarge themselves. However, most women responded that it was "cute," "it should be interesting," and 'enjoy yourself." Getting some inside information from my wife from some of these other women, the women seemed to certainly be curious about it and felt that it actually would be "great" if his penis was bigger - not that they openly admitted this to the men. The women felt it would be "great," not so much for the extra sexual stimulation, but that because it would be something "new" to try after having the same penis from all their married years; and they looked forward to having a new "toy," so to speak.

Most men noted that almost all of the women, who were told that the man was going to enlarge himself, felt instantly moved to tell the men that their penis size was big enough for them and they didn't have to enlarge it for their benefit. (That's some great women!) However, some women really pushed to find out why her man was interested in enlarging himself if his size was good enough for her! Again, back to the concept that he must be enlarging his tackle to find other fish to catch. So be careful!

Anyway, hopefully this article will give both men and women a little insight into questions like this and to aid them in getting an idea as to how other people responded in such circumstances.

Georg von Neumann