Since time immemorial, long-term relationships and marriages have taken their toll on couples around the world. No matter how much you may love and respect your partner, amidst the stresses of life, there is a chance that at some stage your sex life will begin to appear boring and routinely predictable. However, it is important for you to remember that with a bit of creativity, you can get your sex life to sizzle all over again. Some people believe that having the same sexual partner for years automatically implies diminishing excitement. This is not true at all! Try these ideas to spice up your sex life, and you may just find that your partner is more appealing than ever before.
Pleasure Each Other
A lot of couples develop this unstated understanding that if they begin foreplay, they must end with sex, with roughly 20-30 minutes of fondling, caressing and stimulating in-between. Over time, such a routine may begin to appear exhausting and less than exciting. If that’s happening, it is time to change.
You don’t have to extend your foreplay to sex every time. If your partner is in a relaxed mood, try to continue relaxing or chatting, while you pleasure each other. A lot of people find that it is a surprisingly erotic experience to continue talking ‘normally’ while being pleasured and stimulated by their partner. The experience of taking your time to pleasure each other without rushing on is also a great way to reaffirm your love and connection.
Pleasure without Expectation
At times, you could even pleasure your partner without expecting anything in return. For instance if your wife is just relaxing in front of the TV or reading a book after a day at work, take the opportunity! Both, giving and receiving sexual stimulation can be great ways to de-stress, and if you do not saddle your partner with expectations, they may be more than game to just lie back and let you do your thing, even when they are exhausted. Besides, they will be more than happy to return the favor on another occasion!
If couples round the world are to be believed, this is one of the best ways to add spice to your sex life. If there is a board game, an outdoor one or any other kind that you both enjoy playing, you could set up rewards for the winner and penalties for the loser. I guess you should be the one to think about what those rewards/penalties should be!
Are there any role-plays you have always dreamt of playing out in the bedroom? Why not share them with your partner? You could go visiting a lingerie or sex store and get in props, costumes and sex toys, or even get creative with things around the house without spending a penny! A woman recently revealed on a forum how she got her husband to strip down except for hard hat and a tool belt, and that is all it took for a wild night!
These are all great ways to spice up your sex life, but remember that this is only a brief highlight. There is a lot more that you can do, with some thought. The ultimate lesson is that a lifetime is not enough to run through all the possible ways to explore your own and your partner’s sexuality!
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