As bad and sad as the experience of a dating or romance scam is, there is a need to heal from it.
It is an experience that many victims who have been through it have described as being worse than a nightmare.

Although they never bargained for the romance scam when they began to look for a date online, yet when the romance scam happened, they didn’t imagine that the experience would be so horrible as it later turned out to be.

Some victims told me that they couldn’t sleep at night for days afterwards.

Rather, they would cry their eyes out on their let me know that they would wish that the whole incidence was a dream and that it would just go away.

But it never did.

The experience stayed with them for a while before they got over it. And many others who use the internet all over the Western world are still going through the same experience till date.

From my interactions, counseling sessions and experiences with many victims of the scams, here are some tips to use in getting over this scam:

1. Do not keep what happened to you secret: Find someone to talk to about what happened. Don’t keep your experience a secret just because you want to avoid being embarrassed or being ashamed.

It always helps to find someone whom you trust totally to confide in about what happened to you.
It is best to look for someone who will not condemn you for what happened. At the time it hits you that you have been scammed, you do not need a judge or a critic.

You need someone on whose shoulders you can cry on, someone who o can just listen to you, without making you feel guilty.

Look for such a person and talk to the person about what happened to you. It helps a lot to do this.
2.Avoid blaming yourself: blaming yourself won’t help matters at all. By engaging in the blame game, you would only be complicating matters for yourself.

It won’t help you to heal fast, but will only hurt you the more need to break free from blaming yourself, or from being held down by the victim mentality.

You can’t get over the experience if you keep blaming yourself. No matter what you did wrong, you need to avoid blaming yourself .

The time after the romance scam is not the time to look for whom to blame. What you need to do is to get over it first.

3.Look for professional help where necessary: if you can’t handle the experience alone, or with the person you shared with, then you need to see a professional counselor or minister to help you out.

In some cases of the romance scams, especially those in which the love affair had been going on for long before the scam took place, it might be better to seek professional help in addition to other sources of help.

This is due to the fact that such victims are often unwilling to let go of what to them seemed real and are too taken in by the illusion that they were in love with.

Their reluctance to let go of the experience could actually be a problem to them, and as such, they will need professional help to get over the experience.

Also, people who have experienced cases of depression due to the romance scam are advised to seek medical help.

In this day, not just females are looking for means to find someone over the world wide web, be it a serious relationship, a casual, or a friend, indeed even the men are taking their odds in getting the ?one? in the internet. Up to now, there are lots of websites and over a million people who are part and who can confirm that they found their one great love online.

In the fast pace world we are in, online meeting/dating is just a normal scene. With the modern innovations in the computer, getting acquainted someone from another part of the world becomes easy ? through emails, voice chats, and instant messages. Of course guys are the same as any other mortal, they are often exhausted of staying in malls or bar hopping and they at times decide to stay in the comforts of their home, check for probable prospect without shelling out a huge amount of cash and labor.

Here are some of the reasons men revealed why they are hooked online.

Just For Fun
Of course other than online games, guys admit that they?re members of several internet dating communities for they want to experience the pleasure and convenience of talking to over a hundred females in one sitting. Others attest that they created their accounts due to curiosity and boredom. Because they don?t have anything to do after work, they allot their time finding the most beautiful woman available for a possible hook up or searching for a girl they can date come the weekend.

To Experience the Thrill
Reality hurts, most guys in the world have the guts to ask a lady out for nice dinner. Other guys are too shy that they cannot even say their name to a particular woman. With the fame of online dating service, men become confident in meeting women for there is no pressure at all, all you need to do is to get the keyboards working and tell what?s on your mind. This means that internet hook up sites is one among the solutions for timid men when it comes to an real physical meeting.

For Building Long Lasting Relationship
Guys may not be expressive but with serious relationship, guys still stick to the belief that they?ll be able to find love in different kinds e.g online dating. These guys are the ones who carefully browse through dating sites and profiles to find out if somebody can be their best partner in terms of interest and beliefs. These are the guys that use internet dating websites in their venture to get the woman they desire.

Over time, Filipino online dating methods have developed in big jumps. At this point more than ever, people are becoming more influenced of meeting brand new folk, building new friendships, falling completely in love and finding their lifetime partner online. There are numerous features in the site that allow you to have a fabulous and remarkable online dating experience.

Through brand new features that suits their members preferences, you are probably going to speed up your chances of meeting the perfect individual – promptly. You can look for members of the site which has the same traits you have by employing the quick search. Concentrate your pursuit down to those living around your own zip-code .Otherwise you can let the site select numerous matching options for you using the state-of-the-art search.

Various chat-rooms are available for assorted chat topics and allow members to chat in realtime. Talking is a good way to discover new mates otherwise partners for romance, singles and long-term relations. Private chat sessions are also available for those private, intimate conversations with good friends. The downside of talking, unlike forums they are temporary, plain only in real time to current participators, and vanish after a few moments.

If you’re worried about your safety, an absolutely integrated messaging system is ready for you to e-mail other Filipino internet dating members secretly and safely. By employing our messaging system, you won’t have to reveal your real email address or other private info. When making templates you can make use of “template variables” for you to personalize your messages. Automatically include your profile info with any message that you forward.

Designed for your contacts, you can make a chief contact list where you can maintain a record of their usernames, and to impart footage and events. Or create a banned list to unwanted people on site so you will become invisible to them.

For sure, what is a singles site with no a feature for uploading and keeping photos? You may create an album and upload your photos and keep them non-public for you and your friends, or else permit them to be viewed by everyone. Built in photo revising lets you crop or else resize your pictures after uploading. A further event calendar is also brought to keep you updated on the various events you need to attend or plan.

Are women materialistic ‘gold-diggers’ or is this their social character and conditioning? For their ‘make benefit’ I can differentiate their actions and help justify their often erratic and nonsensical behavior.

For example when J.Lo sings ‘love don’t cost a thing’ and the next moment she is flashing off all her bling and only choosing guys with high social value, I can still differentiate that.

Most guys will get confused but she is actually right. Love doesn’t cost a thing but this is her natural

character speaking. Her social character which glamorizes materialism is a whole different matter (like, the OPPOSITE). She represents all of those characteristics within her entire character.

You also are not limited just to your ‘inner game’.

Remember that women will adapt to their social environment (generally more readily than men will).

This will continue to influence them and their behavior. Compare that to if a Paris Hilton wasn’t born into social royalty but instead in a village in a 3rd world country. She would have different influences from the wouldn’t be the same.

When you can realize the truth of what I call Causal influence and cultural differentiation, you’ll understand the root of the Inner and Social behavior any woman has.

So let’s take a Mariah Carey. A desirable female with a social leverage ratio of say 100,000,000:1 or the number of guys who would want to sleep with her. If you play the social game, you probably have a social leverage ratio 2:1 maybe.

If you want to have ANY chance with a woman like that, you HAVE TO BE equal in power in the first place. Unfortunately most guys just don’t have that level of similar social power in their character.

So if you’re not equal in power to 100,000,000:1 like she has, there is little chance of ‘scoring’ with a
woman like that.

Fortunately as a man, you have infinite power you can leverage in your Natural character. You have the ability to be relationally equal to her. How? By applying relational mapping and differentiating yourself from the social matrix itself. You can gain your true independence and not be thrown off by anything that comes from the social ‘game’ where her power lies.

As a man, you naturally have authority over women. That is the NATURAL way of things. So to succeed with extremely beautiful women, don’t play the social game of cutting her down and trying to rise yourself up.

Instead, BE powerful and truly equal in the FIRST place.

I am not afraid of any woman on earth anymore because I know my relationship to their power (no matter how wonderful or developed). I have the true power of one because I am leveraging power greater than me within my character.

Now I am able to respect them because I respect myself.

Other men who would want this level of independence can have it too. Too many men are just intimidated by women and the women don’t like it because it limits their options.

It’s not done through hypnosis, NLP, body language techniques and definitely NOT pick up lines. It can be achieved through applying alpha relational dynamics.

Women have changed a lot over the past 2 decades in the Westernized world. They are more independent than ever before so it’s up to you know what those behavioral characteristics mean to you and how they (should) affect you.

When you have clarity, you’ll know when to stop a woman from crossing your own boundaries such as not letting her (social character) use you as a gold-digging tool. You’ll know to work with the love don’t cost a thing part of her; her natural and pure character.

Your ability to differentiate these characteristic behaviors can often mean the difference between success and failure, bliss or divorce.

-Rion Williams

This article is for guys of any age. It will guide you to feeling much more confident about talking with the opposite sex and making yourself more attractive to them. By the time you reach the end of this article you will be well on your way to winning at the Pickup and Dating game instead of just getting by.

How can we make something that sounds so simple, so difficult and frustrating. First, guys are great talking to each other about guy things, sports, computers, cars, home repair, and so forth. We continue right along talking about the ups and downs of our dating relationships. But, we do not know what we are talking about for the simple reason that we do not know how women think. Women do not think like guys! We must take time out to learn how they think.

Many men think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that is simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something. It is important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you have already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction. Try to use a contact close when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss.

When you find yourself talking to a group of girls, use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you are talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This gives a sense of competition to the girl you are really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

Getting girls to feel an attraction for you – that is not simply based on your looks, the contents of your wallet or the car you have got parked outside – can be really tricky. For example, most men think saying: Can I have your number? is an okay way to finish a conversation that has gone well with a girl. But there is a much more powerful and effective way of saying the same thing. Something like: It has been nice to meet you. Shall we swap numbers or maybe grab a bite to eat and a drink tomorrow? What you are doing is presenting the girl with a choice between good and better – whichever she says yes to, you win. If you only give her one option, as in the first example, she is likely to create her own alternative, which means there is a chance she will not say yes to the option you gave her.

Men who are successful with women create that success for themselves – not through luck or good fortune. Always look your best. This sounds really obvious but you would be surprised by how many men do not understand the importance of this simple tip. You never know when the girl of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it is become a bit of a cliche because it is true – first impressions really do count. Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good – you feel an instant attraction even though you do not know her – well, that is how women feel too.

Body language is very important. It is more important to pay careful attention to how you say things, and how you stand and how you act than it is to what you say (at least initially).

Do not limit yourself to singles bars for meeting women. There are other better places, shopping malls for one. Walk around the shopping mall and when you catch a womans eye, smile at her ? more often than not, she will smile back. To start with you can do this just with shop employees. Even if they do not want to smile, they probably will. Good practice, and you might even brighten a few womens lives a little. Not big weird freak smiles, just nice, natural friendly ones. A lot of women will smile back at you. After you have smiled and said hi to 20 or 30 women, you should start to feel good about yourself.

I wish women had shared these kinds of tips when I was growing up. I could have saved myself from a lot of relationships that went nowhere, and the heart break that went with it.

Each mature person in our lives is after a relationship that might turn out to be something that is very effective, even if it is forever. People have come to realize that before you even think of dating and meeting anybody out there in a fun-filled evening, there is the question of whether the person will be able to handle the kind of pressure that comes with any relationships. People have to realize that there is a power which exists past the single world and singles perception of life, to a point of taking it slow and with a careful nature and cool behavior so that they can minimize risks.

The way the people take dating in modern sense is affected mostly by the thoughts that they have regarding the outcome and final effect that they expect the dating relationship to have brought in their lives. People are in search of a system that will automatically allow them to have a say on how they want to have their relationships taking shape, such that they are not ready to just risk and come out fuming after a systems failure. The first thing that they come to be sure about is that dating is a process of reawakening which puts a person at a better chance in terms of friendship and love issues.

You can imagine a process of knowledge without dating; the things that we take for granted would really hard to come by. This includes such things as having in our lives the inherent joy of knowing the essence of our character and what really makes us feel good. You want to know how to handle the person you are in love with as well as how he or she does their own things. This is all in trying to come across all that you can find for you to be certain that the person you are dating is the kind of person you have been searching for.

You must be aiming at scoring big in a relationship score card, and it is the reason as to why you want to make sure you have began the relationship from a point of strength as you perfect it in dating instances. You must begin dating for friendship purposes, where you are going out to meet suitable men or women who might make something huge in future. Dating has come of as one of those things that you want to do for the rest of your life if it?s possible, because it so cool and splendid.

You are held up between marriage perfection and attainment of a great friendship. It is the reason as to why dating has always been blissful and the love of many. You are in one long or short journey of absolute discovery. You cannot avoid dating if you are after attaining the best from your relationship and you must engage in it if you have to be at par with your feelings. You leave them to speak their inherent wisdom to you.

It?s not easy to make new friends and find a suitable partner for dating relationships. People today are very busy and don?t generally have time to meet people in the traditional way. That is why online dating services have become so popular. It is also a great business to get into for profit.

There are a lot of single people out there. Some of the larger online dating websites can claim 700,000 profiles and personal ads running on their sites. This shows that there are a great many people who are searching for their ideal mate. Marriages have been found through online dating and the possibilities are limitless.

There are millions of dollars being made with online dating services. This is a huge potential for a new business venture.

It is relatively easy to sell the basic needs that everyone has. It is particularly true of emotional needs. Dating, love and romance are some of those emotional needs. You will turn a profit by selling the romance to these people that are looking for the right person to share their life with.

There are some things that you should take into consideration before you start an online dating service.

Develop a good solid business plan. Many businesses fail because of a lack of planning. A business plan allows you to grow your business and operate with your plan in operation. Investors will want to view your business plan before they make a decision to invest in your business.

A method of managing the website is crucial. You should allow for web site design and get yourself a great web designer. Your website must be able to attract visitors to be successful, make sure your web host can handle the amount of visitors you expect. It might be in your best interest to host your own website.

You must plan your marketing and advertising strategy. You will require a great deal of money to get started on your advertising. You will be competing with the big boys so you will need to have your site stand out from the pack.

A good solid financial plan is necessary when you are starting any kind of business. This will help you determine how your money is allocated and the costs of operating your business are covered. You should also include your long-term financial goals.

Once you have all of those things in place you will be ready to launch your online dating service. You will be providing a great service to people who are looking to meet the person of their dreams. And you will be making a huge profit for your efforts.

If you’re looking for new ways to build intimacy, passion and trust in your relationship, homemade sex toys can be a great way to go.

Using homemade sex toys is one way to spice up the physical side of your sex life. But beyond the aspects of pleasure, it’s also a wonderful bridge to enhance communication between you and your lover. That’s because unearthing homemade sex toys in your environment-and how you want to use them-lets you share some of your deeper fantasies, work together and even surprise each other with innovative ideas that you haven’t tried before.

Here are a few key ways to ensure that playing with homemade sex toys brings you everything you want to experience.

Play in Harmony

You won’t build much trust, passion and intimacy if only one of you is on board with the concept of utilizing homemade sex toys. Like most matters sexual, this is an area where both partners need to share the spirit of the adventure. If one partner is keen, but the other is getting dragged along for the ride, your sexual balance will be out of whack. If one of you is unhappy and negative about the experience, you’re going to sow the seeds of discontent and possibly end up with less trust than you started with.

So before you push your partner to find out how that cucumber might feel “in there,” or use silk ties for more than just office attire, talk first about your mutual desires, goals and interests in terms of what is in bounds and out of bounds for homemade sex toy play.

Play Safe

Imagine the scene . . . you very carefully walk into the emergency room, unable to sit down, furiously blushing while trying to explain (in a hushed voice that you hope no one but the nurse will hear) how you ended up with a (insert object name here) stuck up your butt. That’s the thing about homemade sex toys. They can be a lot of fun, and bring some real uniqueness to your sexual play, but you need to play safe.

Safe means . . . your toy of choice is clean. It means that whatever you “put in” you must be able to get out. It means not playing with something sharp or spiked that can cut or scrape you or your partner. It means stopping if something feels uncomfortable or is causing too much pain. And of course, playing with fire or electricity may give you more sparks than you intend, so proceed with caution there. The bottom line is . . . homemade sex toy play can be lots of fun-just do it safely and sensibly.

Play Around

One of the best things about playing with homemade sex toys is that the tools for your games are all around you. From the kitchen to the bathroom to the bedroom-even to the workroom-set your imagination free to find the best ways to enhance the intimacy (and fun!) in your sexual play. Many food items are ubiquitous sex toys. Tools, toothbrushes, bottles, faucets . . . the list of potential playthings is virtually endless.

Working together to discover the sex toys in your environment can help you build intimacy. Baring some of your deepest desires will improve your communication and help accentuate the trust between you. All it takes is some open and honest expression of your wants, and the willingness to mutually go where your ideas lead you.

In the past year or two there has been a rise in the number of women and couples using sex toys. Maybe because the way the economy is, people are reverting to adult sex toys and novelties to occupy their time because it’s yours to keep and boosts your mood. The surprising aspect is that women and couples are investing in high quality adult sex toys to avoid spending unnecessary money on sex toys that don’t live up to the hype. In this article I will discuss one of these luxury adult sex toys. It’s called the Ina by Lelo. Lelo is one of the top of the line adult sex toy manufacturers especially in the production of rabbit vibrators. There designs are unique and aren’t stereotyped to the conventional rabbit vibrators and the quality is unmatched.

Briefly the Ina Rabbit Vibrator by Lelo is for the woman who wants it all in a sleek and stylish dual-action vibrator that reaches out seamlessly to the most erogenous zones. Through Ina’s finely-tuned and body-oriented design, she promises maximum intensity with the minimum of fuss. There is also a secret hiding among Ina’s eight variable stimulation modes; made possible by two individual motors, located in each pleasure point, Inas Circular Mode allows one sensual area to heighten to intensity while the level of vibrations is restricted elsewhere. Pleasure is then transferred alternately to create a sense of movement within, tantalizing her user before delivering the most prolonged feelings of satisfaction, time and time again.

The Ina Rabbit Vibrator is made from high grade silicon with a smooth plastic handle that has a solid feel in your hands. Because of its dual stimulation of the clitoris and vagina technically classifies it as a rabbit vibrator even thought it doesn’t look like the traditional rabbit. This vibrator is very quiet and is equipped with a rechargeable battery.

Lelo did it again with the construction of Ina. Besides having an adjustable clitoral stimulator it is designed for the user to easily locate here g-spot. Combining the clitoral and g-spot stimulation makes for an earthshaking orgasm. The Ina Rabbit Vibrator’s two arms can pull away from each other making it somewhat movable. This way clitoral stimulation can be adjusted to vaginal penetration. Lelo’s Ina is the quintessential soul mate for ladies and the perfect addition to their collection of sinfully hot vibrators.

Since the Ina Rabbit Vibrator by Lelo is quite expensive, utmost care should be performed on it. After each use wash the vibrator with antibacterial soap making sure not to get water into the battery charging area. Never use oil based lubricants with this sex toy, only water based is allowed. Oil based lubricants will wear the coating off the Ina.

Techniques Proven to Make Her Gush
What is the best way to make a girl squirt? Can any woman have a squirting orgasm? Is your girl able to have a squirting orgasm? How come it is so hard for a woman to be able to do this? Let’s answer all of these questions and more.

The truth about the female ejaculating orgasm is that any woman does have the ability to make it happen. Great news for you, right? Now you can take comfort in knowing that you can make it happen for her. So what do you do next? Do you just thrust your fingers inside of her and wait for it to happen? Not quite.

The biggest reason why so many women don’t have this kind of orgasm or in some cases, never will, is because they are afraid. Why you ask? Well, picture this. You are in the middle of sex with your girl and all of a sudden, an overwhelming sensation comes over you. Now, instead of feeling pleasure, you all of a sudden feel like you are going to pee. Would you hold back? Would you go for it? Would you be so distracted and worried you were going to pee all over her that it would just suck you out of the moment? This is exactly what happens to your girl. Right before she ejaculates, this rush comes over her and it’s no wonder she holds back. So if you want to make her gush, you need to help her get over this mental roadblock.

If you can accomplish this, then you can start using these other female ejaculation techniques to help her get even closer to having a squirting orgasm today!

The first technique is to make her have an orgasm via her clitoris first. This is not mandatory but it will help you tremendously because the more aroused she is and the more swollen she is on the inside with her g-spot, the easier it will be for you to find and to stimulate. The best way to make her come from clitoral stimulation is to use a vibrator or your tongue. Both are delicate and offer her plenty of amazing stimulation.

Once she has an orgasm from her clitoris, then the real fun can begin. That is when you can insert 2 fingers inside of her and instantly feel how tight she is. It will be easy to find her g-spot like this. When you do, then you can start stimulating her to bring her closer to ejaculation.

The biggest misconception men make when trying to stimulate a woman to bring her to squirt, is that they don’t know how to stimulate the g-spot properly. This orgasm is all about pressure building and to build pressure in her body, it is best to move your fingers up and down inside of her. This will create a lot of pressure in her body and it will feel amazing to her.

By using these female ejaculation techniques, you can make your girl squirt and you can make it happen a lot sooner than you ever thought possible. It’s time you made her dreams and your own come true tonight.