As bad and sad as the experience of a dating or romance scam is, there is a need to heal from it.
It is an experience that many victims who have been through it have described as being worse than a nightmare.

Although they never bargained for the romance scam when they began to look for a date online, yet when the romance scam happened, they didn't imagine that the experience would be so horrible as it later turned out to be.

Some victims told me that they couldn't sleep at night for days afterwards.

Rather, they would cry their eyes out on their let me know that they would wish that the whole incidence was a dream and that it would just go away.

But it never did.

The experience stayed with them for a while before they got over it. And many others who use the internet all over the Western world are still going through the same experience till date.

From my interactions, counseling sessions and experiences with many victims of the scams, here are some tips to use in getting over this scam:

1. Do not keep what happened to you secret: Find someone to talk to about what happened. Don't keep your experience a secret just because you want to avoid being embarrassed or being ashamed.

It always helps to find someone whom you trust totally to confide in about what happened to you.
It is best to look for someone who will not condemn you for what happened. At the time it hits you that you have been scammed, you do not need a judge or a critic.

You need someone on whose shoulders you can cry on, someone who o can just listen to you, without making you feel guilty.

Look for such a person and talk to the person about what happened to you. It helps a lot to do this.
2.Avoid blaming yourself: blaming yourself won't help matters at all. By engaging in the blame game, you would only be complicating matters for yourself.

It won't help you to heal fast, but will only hurt you the more need to break free from blaming yourself, or from being held down by the victim mentality.

You can't get over the experience if you keep blaming yourself. No matter what you did wrong, you need to avoid blaming yourself .

The time after the romance scam is not the time to look for whom to blame. What you need to do is to get over it first.

3.Look for professional help where necessary: if you can't handle the experience alone, or with the person you shared with, then you need to see a professional counselor or minister to help you out.

In some cases of the romance scams, especially those in which the love affair had been going on for long before the scam took place, it might be better to seek professional help in addition to other sources of help.

This is due to the fact that such victims are often unwilling to let go of what to them seemed real and are too taken in by the illusion that they were in love with.

Their reluctance to let go of the experience could actually be a problem to them, and as such, they will need professional help to get over the experience.

Also, people who have experienced cases of depression due to the romance scam are advised to seek medical help.

In this day, not just females are looking for means to find someone over the world wide web, be it a serious relationship, a casual, or a friend, indeed even the men are taking their odds in getting the ?one? in the internet. Up to now, there are lots of websites and over a million people who are part and who can confirm that they found their one great love online.

In the fast pace world we are in, online meeting/dating is just a normal scene. With the modern innovations in the computer, getting acquainted someone from another part of the world becomes easy ? through emails, voice chats, and instant messages. Of course guys are the same as any other mortal, they are often exhausted of staying in malls or bar hopping and they at times decide to stay in the comforts of their home, check for probable prospect without shelling out a huge amount of cash and labor.

Here are some of the reasons men revealed why they are hooked online.

Just For Fun
Of course other than online games, guys admit that they?re members of several internet dating communities for they want to experience the pleasure and convenience of talking to over a hundred females in one sitting. Others attest that they created their accounts due to curiosity and boredom. Because they don?t have anything to do after work, they allot their time finding the most beautiful woman available for a possible hook up or searching for a girl they can date come the weekend.

To Experience the Thrill
Reality hurts, most guys in the world have the guts to ask a lady out for nice dinner. Other guys are too shy that they cannot even say their name to a particular woman. With the fame of online dating service, men become confident in meeting women for there is no pressure at all, all you need to do is to get the keyboards working and tell what?s on your mind. This means that internet hook up sites is one among the solutions for timid men when it comes to an real physical meeting.

For Building Long Lasting Relationship
Guys may not be expressive but with serious relationship, guys still stick to the belief that they?ll be able to find love in different kinds e.g online dating. These guys are the ones who carefully browse through dating sites and profiles to find out if somebody can be their best partner in terms of interest and beliefs. These are the guys that use internet dating websites in their venture to get the woman they desire.

Over time, Filipino online dating methods have developed in big jumps. At this point more than ever, people are becoming more influenced of meeting brand new folk, building new friendships, falling completely in love and finding their lifetime partner online. There are numerous features in the site that allow you to have a fabulous and remarkable online dating experience.

Through brand new features that suits their members preferences, you are probably going to speed up your chances of meeting the perfect individual - promptly. You can look for members of the site which has the same traits you have by employing the quick search. Concentrate your pursuit down to those living around your own zip-code .Otherwise you can let the site select numerous matching options for you using the state-of-the-art search.

Various chat-rooms are available for assorted chat topics and allow members to chat in realtime. Talking is a good way to discover new mates otherwise partners for romance, singles and long-term relations. Private chat sessions are also available for those private, intimate conversations with good friends. The downside of talking, unlike forums they are temporary, plain only in real time to current participators, and vanish after a few moments.

If you're worried about your safety, an absolutely integrated messaging system is ready for you to e-mail other Filipino internet dating members secretly and safely. By employing our messaging system, you won't have to reveal your real email address or other private info. When making templates you can make use of "template variables" for you to personalize your messages. Automatically include your profile info with any message that you forward.

Designed for your contacts, you can make a chief contact list where you can maintain a record of their usernames, and to impart footage and events. Or create a banned list to unwanted people on site so you will become invisible to them.

For sure, what is a singles site with no a feature for uploading and keeping photos? You may create an album and upload your photos and keep them non-public for you and your friends, or else permit them to be viewed by everyone. Built in photo revising lets you crop or else resize your pictures after uploading. A further event calendar is also brought to keep you updated on the various events you need to attend or plan.

Are women materialistic 'gold-diggers' or is this their social character and conditioning? For their 'make benefit' I can differentiate their actions and help justify their often erratic and nonsensical behavior.

For example when J.Lo sings 'love don't cost a thing' and the next moment she is flashing off all her bling and only choosing guys with high social value, I can still differentiate that.

Most guys will get confused but she is actually right. Love doesn't cost a thing but this is her natural

character speaking. Her social character which glamorizes materialism is a whole different matter (like, the OPPOSITE). She represents all of those characteristics within her entire character.

You also are not limited just to your 'inner game'.

Remember that women will adapt to their social environment (generally more readily than men will).

This will continue to influence them and their behavior. Compare that to if a Paris Hilton wasn't born into social royalty but instead in a village in a 3rd world country. She would have different influences from the wouldn't be the same.

When you can realize the truth of what I call Causal influence and cultural differentiation, you'll understand the root of the Inner and Social behavior any woman has.

So let's take a Mariah Carey. A desirable female with a social leverage ratio of say 100,000,000:1 or the number of guys who would want to sleep with her. If you play the social game, you probably have a social leverage ratio 2:1 maybe.

If you want to have ANY chance with a woman like that, you HAVE TO BE equal in power in the first place. Unfortunately most guys just don't have that level of similar social power in their character.

So if you're not equal in power to 100,000,000:1 like she has, there is little chance of 'scoring' with a
woman like that.

Fortunately as a man, you have infinite power you can leverage in your Natural character. You have the ability to be relationally equal to her. How? By applying relational mapping and differentiating yourself from the social matrix itself. You can gain your true independence and not be thrown off by anything that comes from the social 'game' where her power lies.

As a man, you naturally have authority over women. That is the NATURAL way of things. So to succeed with extremely beautiful women, don't play the social game of cutting her down and trying to rise yourself up.

Instead, BE powerful and truly equal in the FIRST place.

I am not afraid of any woman on earth anymore because I know my relationship to their power (no matter how wonderful or developed). I have the true power of one because I am leveraging power greater than me within my character.

Now I am able to respect them because I respect myself.

Other men who would want this level of independence can have it too. Too many men are just intimidated by women and the women don't like it because it limits their options.

It's not done through hypnosis, NLP, body language techniques and definitely NOT pick up lines. It can be achieved through applying alpha relational dynamics.

Women have changed a lot over the past 2 decades in the Westernized world. They are more independent than ever before so it's up to you know what those behavioral characteristics mean to you and how they (should) affect you.

When you have clarity, you'll know when to stop a woman from crossing your own boundaries such as not letting her (social character) use you as a gold-digging tool. You'll know to work with the love don't cost a thing part of her; her natural and pure character.

Your ability to differentiate these characteristic behaviors can often mean the difference between success and failure, bliss or divorce.

-Rion Williams